I've been so bad with updating my blog. Just time seems to get away from me I mean since when did my Zayn get so big?! In two weeks he's going to be 1 year old, and Kye is almost 3! Life is busy, crazy and beautiful in our house at the moment. We are enjoying the warm weather and enjoying a drama free period in our life right now. I'm so excited to nearly be finished with my classes for the year then only have 6 months left before i'm fully qualified! But this post is mainly to update on Tom and I's parenting relationship.
So after all the drama and broken promises, you all know the story way too well it was probably about a month ago when Tom got into contact with me and asked if we could meet up and talk. Reluctantly I agreed but i'm glad I did. Tom had told me he had just put a deposit on his own 3 bedroom house and that he's been to counselling and wanted to know if I wanted to come to a session with him in the next week or two and he wanted to work out with me times when he could have the boys. I wanted the boys to spend time with their dad but I wanted to see his house first and talk to Lucas and friends about what they thought I should do so I said I would let him know and we would work something. I went to see his house the following week and it was really nice but he was yet to have any furniture for the boys or things that they needed like baby proofing so I said he needed to have it done before they came over obviously. I went to one session with him and I really saw him in a different light. He was happy, he looked in control of his demons and beginning to free himself from them for the first time in years.It was such a positive experience and I privately spoke to his counselor at the end to see if she thought he would up to having his two young son's. So after all this and talking to close friends and also my mum we came back together and worked out a scheduled. Right now it is as follows Tom gets the boys every Wednesday afternoon. He finishes work early and picks Kye up from daycare and then Zayn up from whoever is babysitting him and he has the boys all evening he gives them dinner and a bath and drops them back to me at around 8pm usually for bed. He still hasn't got everything sorted in his house yet for them to stay the night - he only has one cot for Zayn to sleep during the day. Then he also has them every second Saturday all day. He picks them up usually at 9am and drops them back at 8pm for bed. Kye is LOVING spending time with his dad and always has stories to tel lme before he goes to bed. So far this has only been happening for the last 2 and a bit weeks but it works for us and I understand it's not a whole lot of time for Tom but he does have to earn it and prove to me that he wants it and can do it. Once he sorts his house completely out we will be able to talk about overnight visits but for now we are both happy with this arrangement. I miss them when they are not with me but I know i'm going to have to share then for the rest of my life and I know how important it is for them to have their dad in their life in a positive way and to see their mum and dad working things out and being happy. I hope Tom continues to step up and he can be a major part of our son's lives because they deserve it and Tom as a dad deserves to be in his boys life. He's already missed out on so much and I don't want him to miss anymore.
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