Monday, April 16, 2012

Thomas, finally stepping up?

Last night at nearly midnight I received a call from Tom. I was very apprehensive at first to take the call because we have had little to no contact and if we have it's usually been more fights and lies. But I figured it must be important if he was calling at this time of night. As soon as I took the call I could tell something had changed in him from his voice. He told me that he was going to a treatment centre tomorrow (today) for a minimum 6 week program. He had finally hit rock bottom. We talked for about 40 minutes and he told me how the last month everything has just gotten out of control. He was always showing up late to work because he couldn't be bothered to get up in the morning or had, had a huge one the night before. Because of that he lost his job. He was staying with friends until his issues became too much as they asked him to move out, so now he's back living with his parents. He had lost everything, his sons, me, his home, his friends, his job and a lot of respect and dignity from everyone around him. He told me he was sorry, sorry for being a horrible boyfriend and treating me bad, sorry for leaving me to raise our sons alone, and sorry for not being their father. He said this is his last chance and that he wants to turn his life around and he wants to make his sons proud of him. He said once he's out and in a better state of mind he wants to work with me, he wants to co-parent. He knows that the chances of us being a couple and having a happy little family are all but over but he wants to be a father and a good one at that. He said he's not mad or doesn't blame me for doing what I did to keep him from them, he can see that now and that they are so lucky to have a mum that cares about them as much as I do.

I hope these changes are for good and that with help over the next few weeks he will finally be ready to parent his boys how they deserve. I more than anyone wants to see him succeed, I want to see his sons proud of him. I will always love him, and last night proved that to me, but not in the way I used to it's a different kind of love. My heart no longer belongs to him and I think we both just want to see each other happy in life. I can't wait to see the new Thomas and to work with him to raise our children into young men. I knw that this treatment will only be the beginning of his transformation and a long road ahead but i'm still willing to help and support him through it all. I am proud of him and hope that everything works out for him, he deserves to rid himself of his demons.

1 comment:

  1. I hope he sorts himself out , for his own sake and so that he can be there for your little men. I think the way you treat him with such understanding and compassion is adnirable. Good for you Tahnee, all the best.

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